Goal Finesse Challenge

What would you say if I told I could help you achieve your goals? (details inside)

Hey Ladies,

If your not on the BWLBrunch VIP email listing then you may have missed that next Monday, February 20th 8pm EST, I’m holding a special FREE challenge called Goal Finesse where I’ll walk you through the exact steps I used to get real about creating and achieving my goals.

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Here’s just a taste of what I’m teaching:

  • The little-known strategies to help you create clearer goals for your life
  • The REAL reason you aren’t achieving your goals and the unconscious mistakes you’re making that actually work against your progress
  • Why the typical blog post and articles that give you quick fixes are a waste of your time and what you should be doing instead
  • And so much more!

Register now by clicking the link below:

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See you there (virtually!),


Vision Boards and 4 ways to go about it…

So we’re one month into 2017…

I get that everyone isn’t up for spending hours cutting pictures out of a paper magazine. That just isn’t how you see yourself actualizing you goals. Whatever it is that you do I URGE you to write your goals down.

“Write it down on real paper with a real pencil. And watch shit get real” – Erykah Badu

Writing down your goal is not some new revelation that I or your life coach created. It can from the word of God. No seriously, see for yourself!

And the LORD answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain on tables, that he may run that reads it.

Habakkuk 2:2

When the Bible states, “write these things so that they can easily be seen on the go”… Let’s apply this to your goals. Write them out, so that you have clarity on the results you want to gain from each day.

I’m going to share with you 4 simple ways to write out you goals and give you some bonus tips that will make you highly successful in doing so:

Number 1. Old school journaling. Every day that you journal write some of you biggest goals at the top of your journal. And write down 3 small actions that will help you get closer to those goals.

Number 2. Mary Jane. I call this process the Mary Jane because she is infamous for sticky notes full of thoughts and quotes everywhere. Take sticky know and write down specific actions that you want to be carried out in your life. Put them everywhere or collect them on a cork board. Although I’ve tried all of the methods, this one was my favorite.

My first Vision Board Ever! (2014)

Number 3. Dry Erase Markers. If you watch Married to Medicine you recently saw Dr. Heavenly act this out. She took a dry erase marker and wrote down a challenging goal and Bible verse that she felt would help her follow through with that goal. Now I can’t say that’s it working out for her, but trust me I’ve use the same method before and it was great. I wrote 3 goals and a positive affirmation or statement directed towards myself.

Number 4. The power of a vision board. Vision boards are fun because creating goals can become a group effort. You can share your goals with your friends and create your boards together. I think this is great for people who need a little encouragement or help on where to start in this whole goal setting process. Being around other people that have big goals for themselves is sure to light a fire for you as well.

My first Vision Board Party (2015)


Keep your goal organized. When I first wrote why you need a vision board on my blog back in 2015 I talked about creating goals in “categories”. What are some areas of your life that are important? Focus on creating goals in those areas first. For me it’s always relationships with God and my family, financial stability, and career goals.

Reach for the stars, but remember Earth is your home base. I’m encouraging you to dream big. Create goals that are outside of your comfort zone and really cause you to level up on yourself. But to get too cray cray. And you know what I mean. Your #1 goal can’t be to get to a million dollar this year is you haven’t figure out how to get to $100,000


Holiday Vision Board Party with my Family (2015)

Reward yourself for small goal achievements. Which is why I set small goals that help me achieve larger ones. I know that a large goal may take a year or two to actualize, so I create those small goal to give me a reason to celebrate my step in the right direction. Don’t be hard on yourself. Be disciplined in your actions but don’t down yourself because you haven’t made it to the finish line.

These are all some of the strategies I’ve use over the years to help me get serious about my goals. I hope this in some ways it will do the same for you. I have something really exciting that I’ve been working that will help you get better results from your goals. Join the Because Women Love Brunch Accountability Group if you wanna hear about it FIRST!



How I bought my Dream Car for my 26th Birthday

Did I ever tell you about the time that I went out and bought myself a Mercedes Benz?! 🤗🤗🤗 Seriously I probably didn’t because I know you don’t care! Lol But read this anyway.

How Saying YES Provides Growth

My comfort zone is a straight forward simply put No. But I do it in a very nice and nonchalant way. You know, with a comforting smile on my face. One that lets you know that I would really really love to do that thing, go to that place, attend that event, but I just can’t. I’ve gotten good at the type of “No” that still allows us to be friends.

Why is that?

I like my “me time”! Hey what can I say?! I never really understood why people have such a hard time with saying No. My simplicity of “No” probably stems from the fact that I don’t hold a high regard to being accepted by people. I’ve learned that I value someone’s respect, but I don’t seek their approval. I’ve considered myself an outcast most of my life and by the time I hit 25 I learned to embrace the people that understood me, with all of my quirky and bougie ways. 🤓🤓🤓

I promised myself a couple of years ago that I wouldn’t do anything that I genuinely didn’t want to do.

What I’m Learning

I’ve recently found the value in saying YES. It’s often that people that are close enough to you will see your potential more that you do! I have friends and family members that ask me to do the craziest things. And it’s because they believe in me. They put their faith in my abilities and I am often amazed by what they think little ole’ me can accomplish!
In the past year I’ve planned trips, creatively directed photo shoots, hosted events, gained national sponsors, created websites, logos and print work all because the people that I surround myself inadvertently helped push my interest further!

That Part 👆🏾So what I just said is a two way street. The people that you surround yourself with need to know what your passionate about, what your working on, and what you are interested in. It should all be clear through your actions and conversation.

It was the YES to a phone call, to YES to a dinner or coffee invitation, the YES to a favor for a friend, and the YES to attend and event that helped strengthen those relationships.

Meaningful relationships bring forth thought provoking conversations and ideas.

So what am I saying

What I’m trying to say is don’t close yourself off so tight that you stunt your own growth. Allow genuine and organic relationships to help propel you forward. Meeting people is only half of the battle, you have to grow and foster any relationship that being substance into your life.

So as 2016 comes to a close think back to what relationships you helped to foster and grow in your life this year. Was it someone new that you met a few months ago? A friend from high school or college that you reconnected with?


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Money Talks…

I had bad money management. Or should I say the lack of money management. My budgeting skills consisted of how I would make do with the money that I had until my next payday.

During the BWLBrunch: Smart Goals Brunch we had a bomb Girl Talk Panel with one of the topics specifically geared towards money management and elevation. One of our panelist was Anti Money Laundering Advisor and BWLBrunch Member, Tara who shared some of her thoughts on money management. She also shared some great resources that we can all take advantage of, that I will share later on in this post. (So stick around!) Tara’s advice got me thinking about my own money trials and triumphs.

I want to get REAL about money. Is that okay?

I’m going jump straight into it. I remember there being times that I was down to my last dime. And I don’t mean that figuratively. I literally remember taking all of the coins I had and going to buy a meal, not because I was being resourceful… It was because I WAS FLAT OUT BROKE. I didn’t think much of it because that was a way of life for me. I was your average American living paycheck to paycheck.

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I remember when I had graduated college and I was on my own; my sister came to pick me up to take me home for the holidays and I literally broke down balling on the floor. I was crying because I was in debt with a payday loan company and I was overwhelmed. I don’t know if I was crying because I owed money or that I really couldn’t understand how I got so far off of track from the life that I knew I should be living.

I had bad money management. Or should I say the lack of money management. My budgeting skills consisted of how I would make do with the money that I had until my next payday.


Have you ever had a time in your life were money management was non-existence? Have you created a budget only to find yourself going back to old habits or not following through with the plan you created? Or have you created good money management habits, but you really want to learn how to elevate your money and allow your money to work for you through budgeting and investments?

If you fall into any of those categories you are going to love the resources Tara provided for us!

I really had to get serious about my view of money and the way I planned to budget my life through money.

I remember the first time I sat with a financial planner and we wrote out how much money I made, all of the bills I had and how much money I should be saving  per pay period. Would you believe me if I told once we wrote it all down on paper I had nothing left to save.

I was so sad when I left that office. I was about 22 at the time, I had graduated college, I had a full-time job and after all of my bills were paid I wouldn’t have two dimes to rub together. After that meeting I decided that I was not making enough money to even give myself the option to make good money management decisions.

I worked towards a few promotions at my current job, but I eventually got a new job. And once I took on that new job with better pay I felt like I was on a fresh path to take this budget thing on HEAD ON!

I remember sitting at my desk and making my first real budget.

I wrote out line by line the things I paid for down to the T. One thing that Tara mentioned during the Girl Talk Panel was to make a budget that is tailored to who YOU ARE. If you get your hair done twice a month budget for that, if you are like me and go to the grocery store twice a week budget for that. You like to giving to your church regularly? Yep, budget for that too.

Below are some of the specific tools Anti Money Laundering Advisor, Tara shared with us at BWLB: Smart Goals that will help you on you journey:

Mint – Mint, Intuit’s personal finance app, is a lifesaver for keeping tabs on your overall financial health. The app links up with all your different bank accounts, loan accounts, credit cards, and shows them all within a single, streamlined interface. This is especially helpful with transaction searching, so you can figure out which card or account you used to buy something at the department store. Mint also offers recommendations based on your habits, offering new loan accounts, special credit card offers, or other suggestions on how you can save money. – Digital Trends

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Digital App– gives you a deeper dive into your finances. I think this is a great app for anyone who already has the bases of creating and following a budget down, but really want to take a better overview of their financial status for now and future plans.

Research– This is one of the most important steps that Tara mentioned. Your budget is personal, based off of your lifestyle, the goals you have set, and the season of your life that you are currently in. I found two additional resources here and here.

Acorns App– Acorns works by encouraging you to invest your spare change. Using a system they call “round-ups,” Acorns monitors your bank account and automatically invests the change from your daily purchases.

What are some of your best money management or money elevation tips that you have used in the past or are currently using now! I want to hear.




Creating Monthly Goals

Hello Beautiful People,

I have a question for you: Do you believe it’s possible for you to achieve the things you say you want to achieve?

Before you quickly answer “Well of course!” really think about what I’m asking.

I’m not asking if you believe it’s generally possible…I’m asking if you believe that it’s possible for YOU? Take some time to reflect on your mental toughness. Are you mentally prepared to set goals for yourself?

Recently I’ve taken a lot of personal time for myself to really reflect on my current journey. I want to fully embrace where I am at in my current stage of life and focus on what I envision for myself within the next year, 6 month and even 30 days. I have personally decided some areas in my life that I want to work on, I consider them to be “categories”, I take those categories and  create small goals that will help me get closer to my overall goal.

Is looks something like this-

Category Goal
Organization 1.      Get a planner/ calendar and use it consistently for the next 30 days

2.      Get a white board to write ideas

3.      Idea dump once a week

Health 1.      Eat breakfast everyday

2.      Workout or walk 4 times a week

3.      No processed meals M-F

Education 1.      Get recommendation letters

2.      FASAFA paperwork

3.      Get transcripts from UTT


What do you do to fill the gap between where you are and where you want be? How do you make your goals visible and clear? Do you struggle with investing in yourself consistently? 

Get a support team!

We are currently posting our September Goals and finding accountability partners in our  community group at Because Women Love Brunch!

This group has been exclusive to women that have attended a BWLBrunch event in the past, but I want to give anyone receiving this message the opportunity to join the Because Women Love Brunch community by sending an email to Bwlbrunch@gmail.com with your name, zip code and a little about yourself.



Your Tribe is Your Vibe

The people that you surround yourself with effect you in more ways that you know. Comment below and let me know your thoughts!

​The people that you surround yourself with effect you in more ways that you know.

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5 Ways to Build Your Personal and Professional Brand

I shared this information to my girl tribe Because Women Love Brunch earlier this week and the response was so great I decided to share it on the blog at well.

I wanted to share 5 Ways to Build Your Personal and Professional Brand!

Last week I had the pleasure of attending a Build Your Brand Workshop hosted by Women in Leadership and the Multi-Ethnic Leadership Community. I wanted to share some of the key points I took away from the event in hopes that it may be helpful to you:

  1. Decide what you want. Many people fail because they haven’t determined where they want to succeed. As soon as you decide your destination you can assess where you are and create a plan. It is okay to have detours as long as you recalculate.
  2. Accept who YOU are, and bring THAT to the table. Sometimes in order to achieve success we try to mirror others and it doesn’t coexist well with who you are.
  3. Notice what is working, but more importantly notice what is not working. And once you’ve accept what is not working be open to changing those things. Find out what is the vision for the leadership you are working with and how can you partner together?
  4. Be willing to change. Be open to opportunities that might not fit in the box of what your career and or life started off as.
  5. Enjoy serving others. Make your why about serving someone else. Find your why that is greater than you.

Remember, you have to reach out and connect with people to promote your brand. Be proud of the work that you do. Continuously create and manage your brand. Be open to take on opportunities even if they are out of your comfort zone and allow yourself to shine. Understand what your strengths are and work on them so that you may go from being good at something to becoming exceptional in certain areas.

What are some of the things that you do to work on your personal brand? How do you promote yourself? I would love to hear your thoughst!


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When Life Gives You Lemons… 

5 motivational tips to use when life gives you lemons.

So I recently understood the concept of Beyonce’s album Lemonade. 🍋🐝 I know I’m super late, but whatever. After hearing different quotes or phrases in her songs I grasped the idea that throughout her life she has been given lemons and made lemonade.

“I had my ups and downs, but I always find the inner strength to pull myself up. I was served lemons, but I made lemonade.”

– Hattie White

For instance when she accepted the a huge fashion award she spoke about how her mother used to make all of her clothes growing up because they couldn’t afford to go out and buy flashy clothes for her performances. The concept of the album had me thinking about what lemons represent in a faith-filled life that you allow God to orchestrate? And how do you stay on the course to success when these obstacles, I mean lemons arise? See below where I share 5 tips to making lemonade when life throws you nothing but lemons! 🍋🍋🍋

How to make lemonade when life gives you lemons:

  1. Know that God’s purpose for your life is not tied to any single person. The people in your life might change, but God’s plan and His vision have not. Losing some people may make accomplishing certain goals harder, but they don’t make them impossible.
  2. Trust your imagination. God provides you with vision so that you can see what you life can look like when you walk within the purpose he has give you. You can’t get that idea, that business plan, that non profit group out of your mind, because God has placed that vision on your heart. I like to call this the GLO UP phase! 😏
  3. Show gratitude. Always be thankful to those that help you along the way. Anytime someone offers information, advice or their time to your vision, be genuinely appreciative. Remember your vision is not theirs, so they are probably giving freely because they see the passion you have, but don’t get that confused with the fact that they “share” that vision with you. They are only there to support you. Show thankfulness for that.
  4. Start small. There is no shame in starting where you are at with whatever you have. Continue to invest in your business and yourself. Read books and published articles on  topics you want to know more in.
  5. Be confident not arrogant. Arrogance says I am better than this or that person. Confidence says I know who I am and the abilities that I have.

So what are the lemons of your life and how do you use them to create lemonade? Connect with me on Instagram or leave a comment below!

Recreate this look: Shirt, Pants similar here and here, Shoes similar shoe with a chunky heel here, Sunglasses, Purse

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Finding Your Purpose

I don’t have all of the answers but it has been on my heart to share with you so things that have helped me along the way, in hopes that it provides light at the end of your tunnel.

Here’s 3 things you can start doing TODAY that will help you find your purpose:


I think that it is safe to say that somewhere between 24-27 millennials hit a quarter century life crisis. It’s a stage in life were we question everything we’ve done this far and how we arrived to the point we are current at in life.

Whether good or bad we judge our lives not only by how far we have come in this journey, but how far our peers, people we know, and people we used know pair up against not only our success, but our failures as well. Henceforth a generation full of social media driven self-images.


I don’t have all of the answers but it has been on my heart to share with you some things that have helped me along the way, in hopes that it provides light at the end of your tunnel.

Here’s 3 things you can start doing TODAY that will help you find your purpose:

  1. Focus your efforts in what you are good. Spend your time growing and enhancing that. What you focus on is what grows, so if you are constantly pointing out things you are not good at, that is the self-image you are creating.
  2. Your Tribe dictates your Vibe. If you are around people who don’t appreciate all of the neat and quirky things that you bring to the table, then you don’t need to be eating with them! There are literally BILLIONS of people in the world, no need to sweat anyone that doesn’t want to take the time to understand who you are as a person. Your tribe doesn’t have to look, speak, and act just like you; they just need to appreciate the uniqueness that you bring to the table.

  3. Pray for clarity. Continuously ask God to help you understand your life as it unveils. Ask Him to give you a clear distinction of what opportunities, relationships, and paths are correct for you. This is very important if you fill like you are always going back and forth and you are not really clear why.IMG_3174IMG_3171

Tools to Help:

  1. Make a to-do list daily or weekly. Make your list full of small things that will help you reach a big goal that you see yourself accomplishing within the next 6 months to a year.

  2. Go out of your way to meet new like minded people. A few good places to meet new people could be through special interest groups. I recently started a Brunch in the DFW area called Because Women Love Brunch, just to help women find other like minded women to connect with. You can use apps like Meet Up and Eventbrite to see what is going on in your area.

  3. Daily Devotional Books are great for a small work of encouragement. I have friend that send out a message daily with a devotional and a prayer. I don’t read mine daily as I should, but having prayers that touch on different topics help me when I’m not even sure what to pray for.

Find a similar look here: Dress- Missguided, Shoes- Steve Madden, Photographer- Afritina

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Originally I was just going to drop the details of my look, because I did slay for this shoot right! But it has been on my heart that if I am going to take the time to enchanted my online space “blog” that it will fulfill my strong desire to create something that inspires not only your outside appearance, but the inside as well.

Have you hit your quarter of a century crisis yet? What are some ways that you seek and follow your purpose daily?

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