My comfort zone is a straight forward simply put No. But I do it in a very nice and nonchalant way. You know, with a comforting smile on my face. One that lets you know that I would really really love to do that thing, go to that place, attend that event, but I just can’t. I’ve gotten good at the type of “No” that still allows us to be friends.
Why is that?
I like my “me time”! Hey what can I say?! I never really understood why people have such a hard time with saying No. My simplicity of “No” probably stems from the fact that I don’t hold a high regard to being accepted by people. I’ve learned that I value someone’s respect, but I don’t seek their approval. I’ve considered myself an outcast most of my life and by the time I hit 25 I learned to embrace the people that understood me, with all of my quirky and bougie ways. 🤓🤓🤓
I promised myself a couple of years ago that I wouldn’t do anything that I genuinely didn’t want to do.
What I’m Learning
I’ve recently found the value in saying YES. It’s often that people that are close enough to you will see your potential more that you do! I have friends and family members that ask me to do the craziest things. And it’s because they believe in me. They put their faith in my abilities and I am often amazed by what they think little ole’ me can accomplish!
In the past year I’ve planned trips, creatively directed photo shoots, hosted events, gained national sponsors, created websites, logos and print work all because the people that I surround myself inadvertently helped push my interest further!
That Part 👆🏾So what I just said is a two way street. The people that you surround yourself with need to know what your passionate about, what your working on, and what you are interested in. It should all be clear through your actions and conversation.
It was the YES to a phone call, to YES to a dinner or coffee invitation, the YES to a favor for a friend, and the YES to attend and event that helped strengthen those relationships.
Meaningful relationships bring forth thought provoking conversations and ideas.
So what am I saying
What I’m trying to say is don’t close yourself off so tight that you stunt your own growth. Allow genuine and organic relationships to help propel you forward. Meeting people is only half of the battle, you have to grow and foster any relationship that being substance into your life.
So as 2016 comes to a close think back to what relationships you helped to foster and grow in your life this year. Was it someone new that you met a few months ago? A friend from high school or college that you reconnected with?